Using Envy to Your Advantage We want what we don’t have. And we especially want what others have. This isn’t a philosophical musing—it’s human nature. According to evolutionary psychologists, we are wired to constantly compare Read More + Posted by Kara Baskin on November 13, 2018 in: Cup of Calm Tagged in: "What's new with you?" chatter, and your resilience, Appreciate What You Have, Boosts your mood, Competitive drive necessary for survival, Constantly compare ourselves to others, Envy, Find What's Missing, it can motivate us, Jealous lurker mode, negative emotion, picture-perfect social media feed, Plan a date night, Practice gratitude, Shift into "Student Mode", stir up feelings of inadequ, Susan Harrow, Take a Small Step, Think of envy as a clue about what it is your really want, towards what you can control, Train your brain to look towards the positive, transform envy into inspiration, Understanding what you want is the first step in clarifying your goals, When we change how we think about envy, your self-esteem