You’ve heard the advice: If you follow your passion, you’ll find happiness and success. It sounds great. But to say you should follow your passion presumes you know precisely what your passion is.

When my sister Kim suggested in the fall of 2020 that I get a Peloton bike, I rolled my eyes. “That’s your thing,” I said. And that part was true.

Mary was sitting down for coffee with a new colleague when she was asked, “So, Mary, what is it you do?” Her mouth went dry; she became flushed and flustered.